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Because whether it’s a one and done coffee date or a woman you date three or four times, or a woman you sleep with a couple times, or a woman you date for three or four months and realize she’s not the best long-term fit--it. If you cannot end well, you probably won’t ever really take the risk of getting in and if you do get in, you often stay stuck way too long, like I did in both of my marriages.
[Angel Donovan] When you say you’re a good ender, that means being able to observe and see that the relationship’s not good for you, and having the insight, basically the perspective, that this is something you should stop, first of all.
If a woman if kind of not too bad looking, if she seemed to like me okay and eventually wanted to be romantic with me, well, that’s what I picked. When I did meet both my first two wives, the situation I was in is kind of like they weren’t women I would have just picked if I was consciously picking. With my first wife, it was on a rebound my sophomore year of college after having an up-and-down relationship with a borderline personality woman I’d fallen in love with my freshman year. We just went out, and I wasn’t all that attracted to her, she wasn’t all that exciting, but I kind of just wanted someone to hang out with because I was getting over a break-up.One of the things I found out through--and I like to use the word conscious dating--was to become a good observer of what I’m unconsciously attracted to in women. We spoke to guy called Jason Gaddis and we were talking all about affairs and cheating and where it comes from, and talking about how it’s often coming from you’re dynamic, so it’s interesting that you brought that up. Actually, my second wife, like a said it began as an affair. I did have an affair early in that marriage and that’s why I started going to therapy.I’ve had to make some very conscious decisions and it’s helped me become more aware, more alert when I actually meet women. Did that relationship end with either you or her having an affair? Then, yes she did have an affair towards the end of it. I had other reasons for sticking around, like kids were involved.As a consequence, most people don't have a very clear idea of what it means, and its usefulness as a concept gets lost. I think that entitles you to be the wisest so far on the podcast. [Angel Donovan] I think it’s one of the hardest things, selecting women.Worse, it becomes detrimental with you trying to avoid being nice at all, and that can really start screwing with the good and positive parts of your personality; and your confidence, self-esteem, and inner game can really suffer to. It’s one of the things I think a lot about these days.
One of the things I found out about myself through that process and a couple of others is that I am amazingly attracted to unhappily married women.